What Makes a Healthy Friendship?

Friendship health is possible regardless of the typerelatively regular contact so that the bond
and level of the relationship. While it is less likelywouldn't dissolve.
(not impossible though) that a close friendshipDeeper communication
would be unhealthy, a healthy one does notWithin quality friends, people do more than talk,
necessarily have to be a close one. A myriadthey communicate beyond a superficial level. This
factors facilitate the development of enduring andis a manifestation of mutual interest and caring.
fulfilling friendship."Fringe" friends usually do not possess this
Trusthigher-level characteristic. This is precisely why
Trust is the foundation of relationships beyond thefringe friendships remain dispensable and never
acquaintance level. Trust in your friend and in themove into the top tiers of your relationship
relationship is critical to the development of alandscape.
healthy bond. Intimacy requires a certain elementSupport
of privacy. If you know that your friend is cannotThis involves mutual encouragement and extends
or would not maintain that privacy, a strongto maintaining buoyancy in life. Within such a bond,
relationship would be impossible. Trust in the bondpeople look out for each other and point out if or
implies confidence in the endurance of it and in thewhen the other goes astray. Helping your friend
reciprocal respect and admiration of your friend.through troubles is essential, but a friend should
Sinceritynever have a draining effect if the relationship is
Lack of pretence is a necessary prerequisite for ato remain healthy. In a healthy one, neither friend
healthy friendly relationship. This does not justis a crutch or draining personality.
apply to the obvious, i.e. pretending to beResolving conflicts
someone's friend for personal gain or objectives.Nothing reinforces a bond more than resolving
Sincerity is remaining true to yourself and thedifferences with each other and overcoming other
friendship. If you have a problem with your friendobstacles to friendship. Conflict is merely a
or something that's affecting the bond, you wouldpotential obstacle. Dealing effectively with such an
not pretend that everything's alright. Sincerityobstacle deepens the bond by reinforcing the
provides the foundation to solidify a friendship's"all-weather" nature of a friendship. Overcoming
health by ameliorating or preventing festeringobstacles in general demonstrates that it isn't
negativity.strong only in the good times.
EffortNot all of our relationships or interactions would be
You can't sit by and maintain or develop ahealthy in a general sense. In the same way, not
friendship. All relationships that are of a personalall of our friendships may be healthy. Their state
nature would take some effort. Although suchcan fluctuate along the continuum between
bonds lack formal (and sometimes informal)healthy and unhealthy as well. It mirrors the
commitment, it is not acquaintanceship. Therefore,fluidity of social interaction and demonstrates how
it is important to develop the bond throughthings change.