Use Anger Positively and Live a More Effective Life

Society often frowns on people who expressanger to erupt and overwhelm us into a reaction.
their emotions, so many of us choose to maskThe vitally important issue is how we deal with
our inner feelings, denying one of our greatestthis reaction.
gifts. To experience feelings that may comeThe opportunity to respond positively to an
without warning and not know what our nextimportant call from our psyche is wasted if we
feelings may be.simply suppress our anger. Ultimately this constant
Some people choose to live their days with theirsuppression can lead to physical illness and
feelings numbed, taking mind altering substances.depression. On the other end of the scale,
Life may seem easier when you're in a state ofresorting to physical or mental abuse and violence
oblivion, but by blunting or ignoring your feelings,is irresponsible and dangerous. By taking this route
you are denying one of your greatest tools forwe are projecting our hurt onto others, corroding
living effectively. Emotions and feelings can beour self esteem and destroying our relationships.
developed as a natural radar that can inform youAnger should be understood, acknowledged and
how to react to given circumstances.mostly felt. Feeling the anger allows us to realize
One of the most obvious and powerful emotionsthat a new way of being is needed, that this
is anger. This siren song for change is a warninganger we feel is a heightened call for change
that a new way of being or doing is needed. Itsuggesting enough is enough. Often the status
tells us we have exceeded our limits. Because ofquo lulls us into an apparent comfort, so we
its power we will often repress our anger, leadingfrequently resist change, viewing it as a negative.
us into a state of depression, where we shutHowever when anger manifests it is a clear call
down. We are left unable to cope, having failed tothat we should seek effective change, as there is
meaningfully respond to the warnings from ourno other useful option.
anger.With this viewpoint we should welcome anger as
After long periods of denial, anger can easilya guide to a better future, and not allow our
manifest itself. The harsh reality of our lifeviews to be tainted by the negative actions of
suddenly awakes us from the unacceptability ofpeople who become destructive and lose control.
denial. The raw emotion of anger breaks ourRespond to your anger appropriately by starting
state of avoiding our truth, and the things thatto try and understand the reason for your anger,
are affecting the harmony of our life cause us toand looking for beneficial outcomes with positive
become aggrieved. The stress of living with anchanges. In this way you will use your anger
uncomfortable situation can frequently causewisely, learn from it and grow from it.